Written by Athena Gayle

Honestly… if you could “take that show on the road” you would (wink wink).

But you’re in a committed (ish) relationship — or looking for one. So now you’re ready to explore something new to do with your oral fixation.

Oral cockwarming is the non-sexual, sexual activity you NEED in your life. It’s a super intimate and pleasurable act to share with the lucky cock-owner you’re spending time with. And you don’t even need to suck or swallow to enjoy it! YAY!

Ummm tell me more…

What exactly is oral cockwarming?

Basically, you’re gonna take a soft or semi-hard cock into your mouth and simply hold it still. That’s it. You’re not trying to make it hard or even make them cum. It’s literally a non-sexual activity — more of a service or leisurely way to chill with your partner.

What’s the point?

Cockwarming is a tantalizing activity for couples to experience a unique kind of pleasure. Not only does it provide a relaxing and captivating turn-on — it’s an easy way to explore mindfulness and submission (if that’s your thing!). It’s the perfect way to turn a mundane task into something satisfying and fulfilling. You’ll experience an unexpected pleasure in performing this erotic act while your guy has the privilege of having their cock treated like a toy and satisfied in a way that could soothe and relax them.

Remember, this isn’t a blowjob. You’ll still get a bit drooly because your body will automatically react to you holding something in your mouth — so you can softly suck to swallow but you’re not doing anything major.

How to bring it up

Okay… so now that you’re intrigued — you wanna try spoiling the man in your life with this novel demonstration of intimacy.

Here are some ways to bring up the idea with your partner…

1. “Babe, have you ever thought about me just holding your cock in my mouth… but not actually giving you a blowjob?”
2. “Babe, instead of cuddling while we watch TV, would you mind if I held your dick in my mouth?”
3. “I’ve heard of this super relaxing way to spend time together… wanna try?”
4. “So I heard of this thing called cockwarming… wanna give it a try?”
5. “I’d love it if I JUST held you in my mouth… just resting… does that sound cool?”

Seriously… you probably won’t have to convince them too hard (HAH). But they may struggle to understand the concept. You’re not doing this to finish them off — at least not yet. You’re doing this to build intimacy and connection with your partner. In a completely sexy way!

The easiest way to bring it up? Lying in bed (or on the couch) binging shows. Instead of snuggling or holding hands, pull out their flaccid penis, rest your head just above it (laying on the side of your head, ear down against their lower stomach), and hold their cock in your mouth. FYI — don’t be surprised if they get a bit… ahem… stiff from the attention.

It’s not weird.

So you might be thinking… isn’t this a little weird? You’ve never even thought about touching it unless you’re ready to GO. Other than that, you avoid it like an overly needy snake.

This isn’t just an intimate act to do together, it can actually help your dude learn a bit of restraint. It might take a bit of practice for them to get the hang of not receiving a full-on, sloppy blow job every time you wrap your mouth around it — but eventually, they’ll learn!

Other ways to warm the cock

You’ve learned a bit about oral cockwarming, now let’s explore how to do it with your other… areas.

Good ol’ fashioned vagina care

That’s right, slip it inside of you and just let it sit there. Don’t thrust, don’t grind… relax and enjoy the feeling of it filling you. Okay… so this might be a struggle for BOTH of you — that’s alright! It’ll slowwwwllllyyyy build your anticipation and arousal. You can try this while watching TV or while reading a book. Or maybe while your partner plays a video game — sit down on his cock and make yourself comfortable.

Anal play

This is basically the same as above… but with your booty (if you love anal play). This may require a harder… plaything. AND lots of lube. Trust us, use wayyyy more lube than you think.

FYI — You can do this as a post-sex ritual. Make sure you stick with whatever place you did the deed in, do not warm their cock with your vagina if they just had it in your butt.

Don’t forget the hands

Sometimes you don’t want something inside of you and that’s okay! Maybe your neck is getting a little stiff or your jaw is getting tired from all your oral cockwarming sextivities — it’s time to use your hands! You can JUST hold them in your hand. Alternate between holding their shaft and their balls… you can even slightly stroke and massage their ballsack. Again, this isn’t a handjob. It’s like holding hands… but not. On a side note, don’t be surprised if this puts them to sleep.

This is the perfect way to watch a movie together or scroll through your phone while your other hand cups their man-bits. Or try it when you’re the car passenger. You don’t need to take them out of the pants — just place your hand on them. You can literally incorporate this into all of your mundane activities — going to the movies, sitting in a restaurant booth, chilling outside… the possibilities are endless!

Before you know it, it’ll be automatic and your guy will be super comfy with you just touching them… but not in a “let’s get it on RIGHT NOW” sorta way.

Make it extra spicy with power dynamics

If sexual power dynamics are your thing (or you want to explore them), you can use oral cockwarming as an erotic addition to your playtime activities. Let your partner take control or YOU can be dominant and show your partner who’s in charge!

Dominant Goddess

Tease your guy and take control by holding their cock inside of you while you’re doing something else. Don’t allow them to thrust or get any extra stimulation — you’re gonna see your guy squirm in arousal and ache for your pleasure.

Dominant Dude

WARNING — this sort of thing may unlock your inner submissive. Make this an act of service to your Dominant guy by incorporating it into commands or expectations. This could be a requirement when you’re lying in bed. Or maybe you use this as a greeting when they enter a room you’re in.

Little Space

Are you a little? Then this will be a titillating way to achieve your littlespace (or subspace). Don’t know what a little is? Check out this article.

You can use your Daddy’s (man-person’s) body to calm yourself — like a pacifier.

Don’t fear the cock

Maybe blowjobs aren’t your thing? Or you avoid touching your partner unless you’re ready for the MAIN EVENT — this is a great way to become familiar with this particular part of your partner’s anatomy in a low-stress way. You’re not here to perform or to finish the job — you’re here to relax and feel an intimate connection.

It may feel intimidating or even scary, but that’s okay! Don’t let that stop you from trying — it can definitely be an incredibly erotic and satisfying experience. Start off slowly and gradually build up your comfort level. Make sure to communicate openly and honestly with your partner. Don’t be afraid to voice your boundaries and expectations. Take time to relax and get in the mood. MOST importantly: Find a partner you trust and feel safe with — it’ll make a HUGE difference in your pleasant and pleasurable experience.

Netflix and cockwarming

So, yes, Netflix your fav shows AND do a little cockwarming. But you can get creative!

Here are some other ways to practice cockwarming…

First thing in the morning — slip under the covers and hold his cock in your mouth as he wakes up

At the dinner table — kneel under the table and get your oral cockwarming on!

Under a work desk — there’s no better work interruption than some good ol’ fashioned cockwarming

In the shower — get all hot and steamy while holding his cock inside of you

On the balcony or deck — now that’s sexy!

Wanna get extra kinky and try a lil exhibitionism? Do it at the movie theater, on a walking trail, or in a hot tub. Or a restaurant… the type with those long tablecloths (wink wink). Just don’t get caught AND make sure you’re not unknowingly making an innocent bystander part of your scene — because that’s not cool, man.

Do the dang thing!

No matter your relationship status — oral cockwarming is for you! It’s ALL about exploring something new in the bedroom and reconnecting with your partner — in a super erotic way.