Kinky sex on Halloween? Yes, please!

“In Girl World, Halloween is the one night of the year when a girl can dress like a total slut and no other girls can say anything about it. The hardcore girls just wear lingerie and some form of animal ears.”

Thank you Cady Heron for these super influential Halloween rules. It paved the way for many a sexy mouse, sexy deer, sexy bunny, sexy bear. You get the idea. Combine your most slutty outfit with a pair of ears and BOOM- Instant sexy anything. Double points if you could talk your Halloween partner into the theme!

Now you’re a mom…

Instead of naughty clothes, you’re pairing your go-to black leggings with a black sweatshirt and donning cat ears or a witch’s hat. It’s all about the kids. Or your next family costume theme. It’s okay–it’s the new normal. But imagine this…

Sexy kitty playtime.

Okay, so let’s take a step back…

You’ve just put the kiddos to sleep after a long night of trick-or-treating. You’re jazzed up from all the “candy checking” and feeling a little sugar crazy. You’re ready to strip out of the ol’ trusty yoga pants and crawl into bed. Now–hear me out– there’s another option for your Halloween nighttime funtivities.

Leave those kinky little kitty ears atop your head and rock THE sexy outfit. Whether it’s lingerie, a little black dress or nothing at all (slay, girl) — the point is to feel empowered. Now pounce your partner like the feisty feline you are & let pleasure run the night.

Welcome to Pet Play–the kink you didn’t know you wanted (or needed).

What is pet play?

To keep it simple, it’s a kink where you role-play as a pet animal. It’s playful and silly. And you shouldn’t take yourself too seriously. On the flip side, your partner becomes your owner — or handler (ooooohhhh kinky). It’s not only about the sex either, pet play includes commands, praise, punishments and treats (yes, please!!). Most pet play is centered around non-verbal cues…because when’s the last time you heard your pet talk?? You can use toys and gear to help you escape reality and dive into a blissful headspace. If this is sounding a bit like BDSM — well… you caught us…

Pet play is a subcategory of the traditional Dom/sub relationship. In this dynamic, the sub (or pet) is giving up a certain amount of control (aka power exchange) to their Dom (or Owner). But don’t let this sway you, not all BDSM dynamics require extreme physical play–unless you’re into it of course (insert whip sound). Maybe you love it when your partner scratches your head or pets your body. Or you absolutely love pressing your face against their face or rubbing your head against their chest.

Pet play is your fantasy world, so you’re in control.

So… why are people into pet play?

To get a bit sciency, according to a 2019 study into the Psychology of Puppy Play–BDSM, pet play demonstrated a ton of value to the players such as friendship, acceptance, fun, sexual expression and personal growth. Because who wouldn’t want to check out for a little bit and play pretend with their partner??

BDSM dynamics pride themselves on

• Superior communication
• Set Boundaries
• Healthy interactions

The lifestyle boasts better relationships than their vanilla compadres (non-kink folks) and may lead the way to the best sex of your life.

So why are people doing it?

Honestly, there’s a few reasons people love playing as pets…

It’s fun, duh! You get to literally hand over the reins to your partner and let go of all the adulting in your life. Your only responsibility is to play around and have fun. Bonus — you get to dress up and wear play things like ears, collars, tails and leashes.

Psychological and emotional needs. Release and de-stress from the real world. You don’t have to follow any stupid human rules here–just embrace your animal side. Grrrr.

Mmmm… yes, sexual pleasure. Imagine all the intimacy and sexual goodness you can enjoy. As a side note–pet play doesn’t mean you’re sexually attracted to animals. Remember, this is all just “play pretend.” Check bestiality at the door (Bye, Felicia).

Degradation Kink. Call me your dirty little kitty and treat me bad. There’s something about being on all fours, a collar snugly wrapped around your neck, staring up at your Owner–oh the humiliation. But honestly, some peeps are turned on by this. And that’s okay! You can give your consent to this. (FYI–If there’s no consent given, then it’s abuse — sorry, not sorry).

The community around pet play is super accepting. You may feel weird in regular society (vanilla life) but you’re not alone in this one.

So do you want to play…?

Yes, please!

You’re in luck — if you have a spirit animal, there’s a kinky pet play space just for you! And you’re not limited to choosing just one animal to play as. Dive the down the bunny hole and you’ll find… bunnies! And kittens, ponies, puppies, wolves, foxes, piggies. The animal kingdom is literally your playground.

You don’t have to dress up, but it’d be way cooler if you did…

BDSM pet play gear will have you feeling ALL the feels. And help you slip into your pet play headspace.

Hoods and ears. There are entire face hoods you can wear to take on a puppy persona. Or simple ears for kitties, foxes and bunnies. If pony play is your jam, try a bridle bit. If your spirit animal is extra bratty — there are muzzles to keep you in check.

Tails. Wearables or insertables (anal plugs with tails attached), rubber to fluffy and basically everything in between. If anal penetration isn’t your thing, you might wanna stick with the wearables–you can get belted, clipped or tied on.

Collars, leashes, and harnesses (OH MY). This is where your exploration and creativity can boost your kinky fun. Honestly, there are a plethora of options out there. Browse Etsy and you’ll find homemade collar/leash options. Made with fabrics, metals, leather (or vegan leather) and adorned with sparkles and stones.

Protective gear. Trust me- these things will definitely make your life easier during your BDSM pet play adventures. Knee pads, gloves, and feet booties (in cute paw shapes) — all designed to give you ultimate comfort while living out your fantasies.

Partner: What are you?!

You: I’m a cat (points at my ears) Duh.

Stop taking sex soooo seriously. Lean into your curiosities and give into your fantasies. Create a kinky pet persona and enjoy playtime. You may find yourself having the best sexual pleasure of your life.